Not that long ago I made a date with a young man that I seemed compatible with on more than just a sexual level. The night before, he started saying things that made me very uncomfortable about how he’d like me to dress, wear my hair, etc. He was only 26 and I’m sure no-one had even taught him that this would make me feel like a piece of cake being ordered rather than like a partner in a mutually enjoyable sexual experience. I ended up cancelling because I no longer felt attracted to him after that.

I tried to explain to him why I felt uncomfortable and he really didn’t seem to get it, perhaps because he had no context other than porn, and other societal programming that women are there to fulfill a man’s fantasies. I’m middle aged and over that kind of shit. I will rock your world, but I am not there to be your living sex doll.

It would be a great service to all of society if we had comprehensive sex education in all schools that covered things like this as a part of their curriculum.

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