Not necessarily because there's a different cultural narrative about women - namely that they are subservient to and lower down the hierarchy of power than men. Even men who don't consciously believe this may hold these beliefs subconsciously since it's such a deeply engrained narrative that has only truly been challenged in the past 50 years or so. Many men have deepened their understanding of women as societal equals because they have daughters, but a lot of men still maintain subconscious beliefs that don't fully accept that, (cognitive science tells us only about 2% of thought is actually conscious.)

"Women who resist or flout gendered norms and expectations may subsequently garner suspicion and consternation, which has less to do with their challenging gendered norms per se, and more to do with their challenging entrenched norms simpliciter.

And for some people, feminism in particular has profoundly disrupted their sense of the social order. The hostility they display to women who disrupt or pose a threat to gendered social hierarchies, say, is compatible with their being egalitarians in the abstract.

They may nevertheless perceive powerful women who do not wield their power in service of men’s interests as abrasive and threatening.

For that reason among others, a misogynist social environment may be partly the result of more or less well-intentioned people acting out of disavowed emotions, or exhibiting flashes of aggression that are not consciously experienced. And indeed, such aggression may be acted out partly as a substitute for feeling it: the expression “acting out” is suggestive in this context."

Manne, Kate. Down Girl (p. 61). Oxford University Press. Kindle Edition.

Because boys and men have a different place in the social hierarchy, it is much, much less likely for women to hold unconscious (or conscious) feelings of misandry. Very few men hold the belief that women are inherently lesser beings (sexism) but many hold misogynistic beliefs that women belong in a certain place in the hierarchy and feel uncomfortable when they try to move beyond that.

That's the difference.

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