Nick, this article was not about you in particular, although you did provide some quotes that were perfect for me to use to illustrate my points.

The part about dominance and partnership models (which references Nazi Germany, etc. ) comes out the 30 years of academic work of internationally known systems scientist Riane Eisler, as I very clearly stated. I’m not making any assumptions, you are — assuming that because I’m a woman that I don’t know what I’m talking about and I’m just pulling stuff out of my ass. If you ever bothered to actually pay attention to what I’ve said (in this article and others) you would note that I always base my assertions in either personal experience or well documented science.

Of course the pack is hierarchical, but it’s the two parents who lead and they have domination over their offspring! That’s entirely appropriate and also entirely different than you saying that you need to have a patriarchal romantic relationship and to always lead. And why wouldn’t women want a man to be chivalrous? That’s hardly an offensive trait, even if it may come across as condescending at times.

I have never once said that “Alphas” are bad. I’ve said that I feel sorry for them. You described your self-imposed emotional isolation from your mate. That wasn’t me. Also, describing how men go to war for the benefit of women is completely specious. Men started all of those wars and for the most part they were for the economic interests of a relatively few men at the top of the hierarchy at the expense of other men who were lower down.

Go back and read what I quoted from Eisler about hierarchies of actualization v. hierarchies of domination, since you clearly missed it the first time.

I’m starting to think that you enjoy being spanked by me. Next time I’ll wear my vinyl dress and bring my riding crop!

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