Names are incredibly intimate and personal, I agree. It makes sense to use them. I’m old enough to be a bit confused when people who identify as male or female put their pronouns in their social media profiles. Maybe I’m just a fuddy-duddy. If you are non-binary, it makes more sense to let people know how you’d like to be addressed, but even then, I’m just not a fan of labels.
I am a woman who has been married to a man for a long time. A few years ago we opened up our relationship and I discovered that I’m very attracted to certain women. I don’t think of myself as bisexual, although technically, I am. I think of myself as me, who loves and fucks whomever it feels right to do that with. One of the joys of life as it is now is the distinct lack of boxes and pre-determined rules. Every relationships I/we have is negotiated with the other party on an individual basis. We co-create our own rules, and I love that. I don’t want to abide by someone else’s paradigms if I don’t have to.