My take on this is that we are going through something similar with the #MeToo movement. In the past, speaking up or reporting hasn’t really helped and even though women (and others who get systemically bullied) are experiencing backlash and public evisceration for being willing to take the beating and even the punishment that might come afterwards when they stand up and fight back, it will eventually pay off. Eventually those engaged in the bullying behavior (because that is what harassment is; not sexual attraction gone awry) will recognize that it’s not worth the cost to them to continue in this way.

I think it’s a good thing to also try to get to the root of why people feel the need to bully and victimize others, in both school yards and on the street or in an office. However, that doesn’t preclude taking back your power right now. I agree that the most violent/extreme response is not always the best choice but when the other options have been tried, then it’s #TimesUp for restraint or acquiescent responses.

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