My husband James jokes that I’m his fluffer because in a situation with a new woman, he sometimes has trouble staying as hard as he’d like. But if I kiss him deeply in just the way he likes, and otherwise help, he can nearly always do fine. I find it almost impossible to orgasm unless I’m completely relaxed and 100% comfortable with someone, and that will never be the case with someone I don’t know well. It’s just the way things are, so as you said, you recognize that and then just focus on having a good time in spite of it.

Very good story!

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