My feelings on this have evolved a little bit, since seeing pictures of grown men just genuinely devastated. Grief is complex, as are human beings. My grief for the woman that he raped is not more honest than the grief of someone who loved other parts of him, and I see that now. It’s not that black and white. Their feelings don’t negate mine.
This article was really well written and helped me to understand better what some other people are experiencing.