Men should also be blaming the patriarchy, since it harms them also. Every time feminists try to talk about that, they get shouted down around that too. If you actually read this article, rather than just planning your retort, you might have noticed that I tried to have a real conversation with one of these guys; to understand what had really happened to him and why he’d had such a hard time. I reached out to him in good faith, and all he gave me back was dogmatic hatred for women that took zero responsibility for himself. Sorry, no pass for guys like that.