Labels never truly aptly describe things like human attraction and love. I had never even kissed a woman until 5 years ago when my husband and I opened up our relationship. Now, although we have other partners, the one we see the most regularly is Tamara — whom we see together. We’ve been with her for over 2 years. She and I both agree that we are largely oriented towards men, and if we had to choose just one, that’s what we’d choose. But at the same time, I do honestly love her, and love kissing her.