Just about every women has been subjected to “rapey” violations. This does not mean that every man has perpetrated them, but that is hardly the point! Ask a woman when her first experience with something inappropriately sexual being done to her and she will no doubt tell you it was around age 11 or 12. Ask most men that and they will look at you with a blank stare because it has never happened to them. This is a world that desperately needs to change, not be defended.