James and I did this on vacation last Fall — in a room full of other couples who were doing the same. OK, so we’d been drinking in the pool since 11 and when at 5 the sexy Tantra couple asked “Who wants to learn how to do a yoni massage?” we were ready to go — particularly me. It was dark, and we’d been naked around each other all day in the pool already (at Desire) so this seemed like the next logical step. Slowing the fuck down, and not making orgasm the goal leads to feeling really connected and to really awesome orgasms! They were teaching lingam (penis) massage the next day, but we sadly weren’t there. Maybe next trip…….

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