I’ve written some about our generally good experiences with the atmosphere of the lifestyle club we used to attend but was actually glad to read that you’d had some of the same challenges. My partner is a bit bi-curious and we were thrilled that the woman we most often play with just found an interested guy friend to add in. We haven’t been together yet, but it looks a lot more promising than the dreaded websites and the nice, but largely not for us people we’ve met in clubs.
We live in a city now that has a Colette’s and look forward to trying it out at some point, but more for the atmosphere and the fun of getting to express that side of ourselves than as a way to find partners.