I’ve learned a lot about myself, my primary relationship and about healthy love through non-monogomy. It’s not for everyone in part because you really can’t coast — you have to do some intensive self-examination and have some really honest conversations in order to make it viable, but it is possible. We had a pretty happy 20 years before we opened up our marriage, but it’s even better now. People need to have the freedom to find what actually really works for them. If that is monogamy — great! If it isn’t, that should be OK too.