I’ve been working through some old anger recently as well and the first step has been to really own and express it. I’m now beginning to move into a phase where I can be less “in the anger” and to be less consumed by it. But I think that’s only because I really went deep down into it first and allowed myself to be angry and to express that to the kinds of people who perpetuate the things that make me angry, e.g., men who are bullies. No longer swalling that anger or keeping silent about it was a necessary step.
There’s definitely a lot in the programming about how it’s inappropriate for women to be angry. The entire Venus Williams thing is a case in point. And a lot of women are angry at being told they shouldn’t get angry, but I really love all the phases and steps you’ve laid out here for moving into a place that is more about a passionate life rather than an angry one!