I’ve been married for a long time (to a man) and only really realized I was bisexual about 5 years ago when we opened up our relationship. To (most of) the world, I’m a monogamous married heterosexual woman. But that isn’t actually the case. I understand how it’s easy for me to “pass” and not have to face so many things that dating queer people and especially bisexual people face. And, I also really love how I mostly don’t have to put any labels on myself and can just be who I am, and love (or like) who I do. I don’t even particularly think of myself as bisexual, not because I deny it, but because I don’t mostly have to engage with labels and so I don’t.