It’s your piece. As I said, much of what I commented may seen to be largely as semantics.

But I also don’t see insecurity and the self-involvement that it breeds to be inherently feminine (or masculine) or even natural to human beings. I see that as being a very clear part of the kind of social system that we live in, which fosters them. Here’s what a noted anthropologist says about current hunter-gatherer tribes, which are largely believed to be a good representation of how we lived pre-patriarchy:

If just one anthropologist had reported all this, we might assume that he or she was a starry-eyed romantic who was seeing things that weren’t really there, or was a liar. But many anthropologists, of all political stripes, regarding many different hunter-gatherer cultures, have told the same general story. There are some variations from culture to culture, of course, and not all of the cultures are quite as peaceful and fully egalitarian as others, but the generalities are the same. One anthropologist after another has been amazed by the degree of equality, individual autonomy, indulgent treatment of children, cooperation, and sharing in the hunter-gatherer culture that he or she studied.

Cultures that are centered around the good of the community don’t allow for the kind of selfish behavior you described and people are less inclined to try to behave that way in the first place because their culture isn’t based in constantly comparing themselves to everyone around to determine if they rank higher or lower than them in the social hierarchy.

And, that’s a small aspect of the point I think you were trying to make, so it’s fine. It’s just an aspect that interests me, in particular, so there I go….

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