It’s really nice to further get to know someone else whose intimate relationships are as non-traditional as mine. I know a few, but still not very many. I’m sure that most of this sounds crazy to a lot of monogamous/traditional people, but to me, it all makes perfect sense! I loved seeing the pictures too!

I have two male life partners, one of whom I’m married to and live with (James) and one who now lives on the other side of the country from us (Nat). As you said, when your primary moves, you move too. We haven’t seen each other in person in over 2 years, and yet, he is an integral part of my daily life and my life partner just as much as the one I live with is. James and I have a mutual female love (Tamara) and although she lives near us, we only see her every month or so. She is in some ways a FWB, except that we all have more than just friends feelings for each other. From time to time we play with other people, but for the most part, we stick with these two primary relationships and as you’ve said, they enrich our lives in all kinds of amazing ways.

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