It’s not me saying that sexual harassment is about domination and power; it’s a long and well established fact. I learned about this in rape prevention talks when I was a child. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/slightly-blighty/201711/what-is-the-link-between-sex-and-power-in-sexual-harassment And I’m not saying that all men have fragile egos; I’m saying that the men who do this kind of thing have them. They are also trying to maintain their status within the “man box.”

“The (Man)Box is one of main reasons why men harass women on the street and why catcalling and violence tends to escalate when men are in groups. Since the Box is hierarchical as well as performative, the guy at the bottom of the heap is at risk of being cast out. So each guy has to compete with the others in order to not be the one who’s outside the Box. And as each one’s performance becomes more vigorous, it forces the others to do the same.”

There is a certain amount of overlap in male socialization that tends to equate dating/mating with subduing prey, which does cause it’s own issues, but it’s clear that not all men look at relationshps this way. Weinstein was by all accounts as you said, a fat, unattractive kid who dressed terribly and had no charm or other mitigating factors to make up for that. Rather than working on making himself more appealing, he simply gained enough power to force himself upon women. This is not lechery — it’s domination, and since we live in a very domination-based society, that got looked at as reasonable, particularly within the somewhat fucked up atmosphere of Hollywood. It was considered the spoils of power, as it has been in other industries as well.

I don’t know if that’s exactly true that all men are Weinstein, but I think he’s on the right track in this article none-the-less. “To understand my assertion that ALL men are Harvey Weinstein, you have to see past the sexual nature of Harvey’s actions. Sex crimes have NOTHING to do with sex. Clearly, Mr. Weinstein has some major issues in this area since he found it important to expose himself to his victims again and again and again and again. What many experts on sex crimes say, however, is that rapists aren’t attacking women to have sex. The attacks are about dominance, power, anger, fear, validation, lack of communication and control.”

I think it’s really, really important to the larger conversation about how we can all be better to each other and have better relationships to understand these distinctions.

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