It’s not in dispute that we live in a patriarchy. If you want to pretend that isn’t so, that’s your choice but it’s pretty much the dictionary definition of delusional. I’ve already addressed most of the things that you brought up, and I’ve not seen citations or references for any of your assertions.

And you telling me what my life has been like and what my positions are is the dictionary definition of mansplaining or hubris, if you’d rather. In any case, it’s condescending in the extreme. I have every right to speak to the attacks that men have made on me and continue to make on women in general. That’s a part of agency.

I am very aware what my wounds and triggers are and I work with them on a daily basis, in part because I suffer the effects of living in a patriarchy on an on-going basis and so my wounding and triggering is also on-going. Hardly a day goes by that I’m not subjected to some horseshit related to that, as is the case with most women. I make conscious decisions about how to be and what to do in the face of that. Writing this piece was one of those.

And in spite of that, nearly everything I write is about trying to make a better society for all. If you don’t appreciate that or don’t care for my approach, I don’t really give a fuck. I’m happy with my life and with the overwhelmingly positive feedback I get from both the women and the men that I talk with, both in real life and on Medium. If you don’t like what I say or do, you are free to not read about it.

Dispelling cultural myths with research-driven stories. My favorite word is “specious.” Not fragile like a flower; fragile like a bomb! Twitter @ElleBeau

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