“It is important to have opinions but it is more important to understand your opinions. Of course you think you are right. Everyone thinks they are right. But Do you know why you thing what you think?”
Oh, hell yes! This makes me entirely crazy because it seems most people don’t even know why they support what they do other than for idealogical reasons. It means it’s easier to dismantle their assertions because they’ve never thought through the nuts and bolts of them, but it means they also will still, in the face of that, refuse to give up the ideology, because it’s based in emotions and not logic or facts.
A while back I wrote about words that turn me on and off. At the top of the list for words that turn me on was “Opinions expressed here are available for transformation based on new information,” which was the profile descriptor for a guy I ran across here on Medium. Another one down the list had to do with indicating that someone had made a good point, even if you ultimately weren’t going to change your position.
I can have plenty of respect for someone who holds a differing viewpoint, as long as they know why they hold it, and I know exactly what informs my opinions and perspectives, some of which are data and some of which are my own experiences, which might include my own wounds. And I take that in to consideration when speaking from my wounds, because that’s rarely the clearest, most analytical perspective.