Imagine my delight in finding an entire article written based on something that I’d said! To clarify, what I was referring to is not that the actually cleaning is sexy, but rather what it indicates to me when household chores have been undertaken without me having to ask. It means I have more energy and bandwidth for playtime and it means I feel cared about and like we are working together as a team. All of that sets the stage for better intimate moments and more of them, in part because I’m not too tired or running through the list of chores still left to accomplish in my head, but also because I do whatever I can to try to make his day easier and help him out and when he does the same for me (which he often does) then that caring and concern for each other translates into wanting to demonstrate that phyically. It’s the continuous foreplay notion… if you are always or at least often, trying to woo each other, rather than just at 9 pm on Saturday night, then more good, connected, passionate sex is going on in the bedroom, or the broom closet, or what have you…. (we have a kid, we have to be creative sometimes).