I’m not trolling you — I’m calling you out on condescending behavior. This is the definition of trolling.

gerund or present participle: trolling

  1. make a deliberately offensive or provocative online post with the aim of upsetting someone or eliciting an angry response from them.

What makes you think you get to tell someone else about her experiences and whether or not they are valid or worth speaking about? You weren’t supporting her or trying to encourage her (or even respectfully presenting another perspective)— you were undermining and mansplaining, and it matters that she was a woman because overwhelmingly it’s guys who make these kinds of comments and make them to women. It’s shitty and unnecessary. You have no idea what it’s like to be in her shoes, not only because you aren’t a mom, but because you have clearly done nothing to educate yourself about what it might be like to be one. You are just standing and pointing with no purpose but to try to make someone else feel bad — in other words, trolling.

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