I’m not talking about individual people/men — I’m talking about as a society. I have plenty of loving, friendly and respectful relationships with men, but this society is a dominance hierarchy, and so as you have identified, is largely based in predation, insecurities and tribalism. And gender hierarchy is a part of that dominance quotient.
And none-the-less, I am deeply committed to the journey to be myself and to advocate for others being allowed to be themselves. That’s over-archingly what I write about.