I’m not an exhibitionist in the way that you are describing although I might become one after having read how to do it here. But, this part really resonated with me. I don’t typically wear overtly sexy clothing, except maybe for a date night, but I still find it fascinating that in yoga pants and a t-shirt, the fact that I’ve got my sexuality full-on shines through. At 55 I still grab men’s (and some women’s attention) not because I am so beautiful, but because I’m owning my sexuality in a way that hardly anyone does in public.
The day before Christmas I went to the grocery store in a gaudy elf tunic complete with candy cane buttons and jingle bells, and although it was kind of cute in a fun way, I got a lot of attention that was not responding to “cute.” It was as if I were dressed for a burlesque show or something. I think it just conveyed a confident, uninhibited woman. Either that or a lot of men have a Mrs. Claus fetish…😁