I’m married to a man and was for a long time before I realized that I also love and desire women. We are now both in love with/involved with the same woman. I don’t know what to call that and so mostly I don’t give it a label. I’m also in love with another man as well.
Most people see me as straight and monogamous and since it’s easy to let them think that, I don’t have to figure out other terms that apply better, which frankly works for me, but I get that it’s not so easy for everyone.