I’m going to chalk it up to pain meds for your ribs, but if you think I’ve written all of this about chatting up a woman at her desk, you really have no business in this discussion because you have no concept of the severity, depth, agressiveness and horribleness of actual sexual harassment.

And there are no elaborate mechanisms at sex clubs to keep men in check. Again, maybe you are pain doped right now. There are bouncers present, but I specifically said I’d never seen them needed. The one incident I described about a guy actually being ejected was told to me by someone else. It almost never happens because the agreed upon atmosphere is one of respect, which is unlike a lot of offices and public streets.

Seriously, I don’t mean this unkindly, but I think this is another case of you don’t know what you don’t know. Talk to the women you know. Google #MeToo stories. None of this is about flirting gone awry or misguided peacock behavior. It is way darker and more insidious, and way more damaging.

I’m glad you liked the fox story. I had a lot of fun with that one. I especially love the picture of the fox and Xmas tree bolted to the ceiling. In that story I referenced that women have been considered incorrigibly untameable througout history. This modern notion that women are naturally chaste and men are naturally licentious is completely modern — and a function of social conditioning around who women are currently expected to be. Throughout time until very, very recently, women were considered base because of their uncontrollable sexual natures. This was in part an over-reaction to a time when sacred sexuality was a huge part of religious experience as it was in goddess worshipping cultures (all of them, until 5K years ago). Men in classical Greek statues have tiny penises (ever wondered about that) because they were supposed to be about the mind and not the body. That was the realm of women. Women are seen as temptresses and unable to control their desires, luring men into debauchery.

So the idea that men can’t control themselves but women can is just a modern invention. And it has little bearing on the topic of what sexual harrassment actually is.

I’m sensing that we are reaching an impasse, so I’ll just say again, thanks for the chat and I’ll look forward to perhaps having another one with you at some point.

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