I’m glad that you and your GF are a good fit for each other. As for the spanking, you haven’t refuted anything that I’ve said other than to claim that you are just fine the way you are. On the other hand, I have refuted most of the things that you’ve said with logic and/or science/facts. Sure, evolutionary biology means that women are attracted to someone they can feel safe with, but that doesn’t mean they want to bossed around and condescended to, as already stipulated in studies previously cited. Everyone is attracted to confidence, but that also doesn’t necessarily translate to the need to lead.
My husband is so confident that he doesn’t need to lead in order to feel good about himself — he can be my full partner. He’s so confident that he has no problem with me having another life partner other than him. He has no problem watching me fuck other guys right there in front of him. In fact, he really enjoys it. Now that is some confidence right there!