I’m afraid I would have to get a bit forthright with a cashier who wouldn’t give me my change, but would give it to my 10 year old son instead. I make most of our travel/dinner reservations, and so they are typically in my name, which is different than my husbands. That means I check us into the hotel, I tell the hostess our party is here, and often that I pull out my card to pick up the check — but it’s all coming from the same bank account. Sharing IS caring, no matter who makes more money or fulfills what other roles.