I’m a woman who has been happily married to a man for a long time. A few years ago we opened up our relationship (ethical non-monogamy) and I discovered that I was bi-sexual. Since I’m married to a man, it’s easy for me to “pass” and I don’t spend much time consider how to label myself mostly because I don’t need to. You’ve asked a lot of really good questions here. I certainly don’t have the answers, but it’s good to ask the questions.