Giving a Bump To An Important Story
My friend Lorelei Weldon and I collaborated on the foundations for the above story. This took place while engaged in a recent discussion with a man who remains convinced that harassment is primarily about lust and attraction*. Although we failed to sway him, in the process we synthesized the ideas herein and each contributed supporting data that was ultimately used in this story. Although Lorelei gets all the credit for actually writing it, she encouraged me to share that I’d taken part in some of the ideas and analysis, and that some of my prior stories had influenced her thinking, including this one:
She also used two of my previously published stories on power dynamics and gender in sex clubs as support for the notion that men are able to control their sexual urges and impulses when they are in an environment which demands that (a sex club). For the sake of clarity, sex clubs are not the same as strip clubs. This was not a distinction I had previously realized needed to be made, but in our recent discussion it was revealed that it was.
What the Vanilla World Can Learn About Consent from a Sex Club
The safest I’ve ever felt in a club was in one designed for swingers.
I agree with Lorelei that if we can’t reach consensus about what is actually taking place in instances of sexual harassment, it’s going to be harder to address that issue. So, here’s me, sharing her article in the hope that it will impact more people and either arm them with good discussion points or perhaps even alter their perception.
*Update: Apparently the man in question was ultimately swayed by Lorelei’s article and has agreed that although sometimes lust is a big factor in harassment, sometimes it’s not a factor at all.