I wasn’t poly either — until I got this strong urge to go look for this man after 25 years of happy monogamy. I didn’t even realize that’s what I was doing until later. There’s a lot out there on the web about the TF dynamic and I’ve written a couple of pieces on it. I was involved with Nat for 2+ years before we realized that we were Twin Flames. Suddenly, all the craziness made sense. If that really resonates for you, it just well may be. My husband is still my soulmate.