I used to know a guy who had been in the pick-up community in LA. He actually said a lot of the same things you did. The idea to being a really successful pick-up artist was not to essentially force yourself on some poor random woman, but to find a spark of mutual interest and build on it. For example, never ask a woman a question you don’t really care about the answer to, like “Where are you from originally?” Build actual connection and rapport and you’ll be golden. Makes sense to me, and infinitely better than someone who won’t take a hint.