I too try to be calm, reasoned, measured and such when I write. I am angry, but agree that shrill shrieking isn’t going to get anywhere. And, I’m more and more aware of all of the ways that the social system of patriarchy really harms men also. My goal is to have a better world for all people.

AND, I’ve also really noticed this dynamic lately that often what gets certain men up in arms is the tone and not the content. It’s historically been unacceptable for women to display anger, and women of color, in particular. Sometimes I just feel the need to point that out when I see it taking place.