I think we are going to have to agree to disagree. I still believe that this impulse has been trained out of women. If you are possibly going to be stoned to death for immodesty, I’d imagine you’d learn pretty quickly how to train yourself to be/do differently. I base this supposition also on the fact that my brain operates very differently now that I am no longer worried about it being considered wrong to notice other people than my husband. Men have never been censored for looking at or noticing women.

There’s also this, which I’ve already spoken to “While men made direct eye contact with faces in the pictures; especially when primed to look for threat, women averted their gaze downward slightly towards the nose and mouth of these faces. The researchers claim that this may be due to women being more sensitive to the negative consequences of making direct eye contact and will, therefore, shift their gaze downward, towards the centre of the face.”

The great anthropologist and comparativist Sarah Hrdy tells us that, across species, including among humans, the best mother for many eons was the one who was, under particular and far-from-rare ecological circumstances, promiscuous. By being so, she could hedge against male infertility, up her odds of a healthy pregnancy and robust offspring, and create a wider network of support by lining up two or three males who figured the offspring might be theirs.

Wouldn’t it stand to reason that a woman would be constantly evaluating all men as potential partners if that were common practice?

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