I started having sex with women about 5 years ago and until that time never really considered doing that, although on some level I think I often found women attractive. But as you’ve said, in such a binary world, you are either one thing or the other and I knew I wasn’t gay, so therefore I must be straight. I still balk a bit at terms like queer or even bisexual. I don’t think of myself that way even though my husband and I regularly have sex with a woman with whom we have a strong emotional bond. I guess I don’t feel the real need for a sexual identity — I just am attracted to whom I’m attracted to. I’m just me!

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