I recently went to the wedding of a couple that I really like. I’m super happy for them, but it really highlighted for me all the bad relationship messaging that goes along with monogamy e.g., “two shall become one.” Afterwards I wrote “What I Learned About Love From Non-Monogamy.” Having more than one love interest forces you to not try to own the other people. It gives you a great big lesson in non-attached love and even people who want to be monogamous can take a page from that book.