I honestly feel bad for your personal struggles. No parent should have to endure that. And still I go through shit on pretty much a daily basis that you will never encounter, as most women do. People of color have us all beat in spades. Keep on in your ostrich world if you must, but since you have a daughter, you’d be doing her a favor if you would wake the fuck up! Things are better for younger women, but they still aren’t good. She needs to be able to come to you with her struggles and not feel that you are blaming her or shaming her for acting like a victim when she is inevitably victimized. You can say whatever the fuck you want to me, but for the love of God, don’t do that to your precious child! The world will hurt her; the patriarchy will abuse her and if you make that her fault you will harm her irrevocably and she will never trust you in the same way again. Don’t do that to her or to you!

I too was a father’s daughter, wanting nothing more than to impress my dad and have his approval. It hampered and debilitated me for many decades, as much as I adored him.

And since you are a fan of Brene Brown, you will appreciate one of my favorite sayings of hers, although there are many. Strong back, soft front, wild heart! Also, there’s that thing about speaking truth to bullshit but also about standing close, because it’s hard to hate people up close.

Via con Dios!

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