I hear ya, Joe. It gets rough sometimes and as someone who has spent the past couple of weeks fairly miserable and at times physically ill, I’d like to stop the world and just get off.

And, I think that having conversations is one of the few ways that we can help to create change. I’ve met with plenty of loud mouths and hard heads, people who are so deep in their tribalized entrenched positions that they can’t see past that, but I’ve also had good conversations with people (men people, nearly always) some of whom have started to give me a kind of grudging respect. Maybe they don’t completely change their tunes, but they’ve at least been exposed to some new ideas that are offered, not as a part of a culture or gender war, but as part of a dialog about creating a better world for all people. A couple weeks ago I actually had two separate men apologize to me for their rude and agressive behavior. It was a WOW moment! Who would have ever thunk it?

Building these kinds of bridges is what gives me hope and why I keep coming back. Hang in there and don’t lose hope!


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