I haven't said this is all men's fault, but you've asserted a bunch of things that have no basis in fact, and are simply cultural myths. When I try to set you straight, you continue to find ways to balk. I don't have any more time to devote to educating you.
The fact of the matter is, we do live in a patriarchy. It harms men too and women participate in upholding it, but trying to pretend that men suffer the same things in the same ways because of it is ludicrous.
This is the end of my participation in this discussion. I've linked you plenty to read. Definitely check out Sensual, but Sexography is good too.