I have personal experience of living in a patriarchy on a daily basis, as do all of the women that I know. I do not require outside sources to confirm or deny it for me. It is not an academic or philosophical thing — it’s a visceral thing!

You making snarky comments about my personal experiences, which you know little about is neither helpful nor kind, although I don’t need you to see or approve of me. You pretend to want to be some kind of ally, but then you continually attack anything that I say, which is a strange kind of ally. It’s almost like I’m supposed to seek your approval. Pfft! As I told Sean a few minutes ago, I’m 54 years old. My days of seeking other people’s approval and male approval in particular is long over. That’s one of the lovely gifts of middle age — you know who you are and I don’t give a flying fuck about what other people think or expect of me. And yet, plenty of young men find me attractive, both intellectually and physically, as do plenty of men (and women) of other ages, and that’s cool too. I show up as me, comfortable in my skin and if that works for you great, and if it doesn't, that’s OK too. That’s what they like about me. Plus, I’m a hell of a lot of fun…….😉

I’m not changing for you guys. If you don’t like me or approve of me, fine. You are welcome to stop reading any time.

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