I have not hounded or threatened anybody (although some might be of the opinion that the woman being referred to in this OP was being hounded). I’ve also not told anyone they couldn’t speak. I’ve simply pointed out, calmly, civilly, and rationally that to hold someone else to your particular arbitrary standards is not particularly useful. Tony and I have had many, many such discussions and although we rarely agree, we go about it all like adults. Perhaps you should try that some time!