I have long loved that Amy Shumer skit, but as a woman in her early 50s who is plenty sexually active, I’ve gotta say Fuck That! I don’t have my 20 year old body but I do know who I am and what I really want and most of that involves things I didn’t have the guts to pursue when I was 20.

We used to watch the TV show Gigolos and several of the guys said they actually preferred middle aged women because they didn’t fuck around, so to speak. They didn’t play games or pretend to be shy; they knew what they wanted and they went after it. A beautiful body and face are attractive, but that doesn’t necessarily make someone a good lover and you can still be gorgeous in middle age (or older) without trying to look like you are still 20. The cult of eternal youth is such a scam. I’m the hottest, most alive person I’ve ever been and I wouldn’t go back to age 20 for all the money in the world!

Dispelling cultural myths with research-driven stories. My favorite word is “specious.” Not fragile like a flower; fragile like a bomb! Twitter @ElleBeau

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