I have a hard time laughing about someone who is clearly as fucked-up and destructive as Woody Allen. Whether or not he had threesomes with Mia Farrow included is irrelevant to whether or not he abused his adoptive daughter and others. Mia may well have enjoyed three-ways, if such things ever actually occurred. I certainly do. It does not diminish her right to be outraged about his other behaviors. Why is this such a difficult concept? Is a sexually adventurous woman a slut who then forfeits all rights to her body and the moral high ground? What century is that left over from?

I get that you are trying to be funny, but it’s really not. Women are not here on earth primarily for male enjoyment, entertainment, and sexual gratification. I know you well enough to know that it’s probably inadvertent, but this piece just fosters those same notions. It’s seriously time to dismantle the notion that everything happens for the benefit of the male gaze.

I just had an experience a few weeks ago where I was treated like I was there simply to be the guy’s fantasy and solely there for his gratification and enjoyment. I cancelled the date, but this shit is very real and not in the least bit funny.

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