I had two heartbreaking miscarriages — one early on and one at 24 weeks. I had no community for this and no-one around me, least of all my male doctors, who could understood the visceral loss. The second loss was a fetus with anencephaly, a condition where the baby’s spine and skull are not developing correctly and the child will die within an hour of delivery. My doctors advised me not to carry to term but when I followed their medical advise I was treated as a baby killer, both by their nurses and my insurance company. The trauma of my loss was further compounded by this treatment. It took me a full year and the birth of a heathy child to get past it. Mothers are both put on a pedestal and treating like garbage in this society. They are judged and scrutinized perhaps more than anyone else. It’s a fucking shame!