I find myself in my mid-50s both more willing to let people go when the situation merits it, and also more willing to forgive and find a way forward when that is what's called for. It's a new kind of discernment that I didn't have when I was younger, and loyal to a fault, but also caring more about what other people thought. Now that I no longer care about that, a whole new world opens up. I want to be surrounded by people who take real responsibility for themselves and understand that this includes how their choices and behaviors effect others, not just an "I got mine" kind of self-responsibility. And, I also have more compassion for the wounds and fears and subconscious programming that run most people than I used to, although that doesn't necessarily mean they get a pass or get to stay in my inner circle.
You're my kinda people Julia. Keep on doing what you are doing!