I don't need to defend myself. I made my point clearly and plainly in the OP. You are the one who made a bunch of unsubstantiated assumptions - about my intentions, my motivations, my understanding of toxic masculinity, etc.

And what does toxic masculinity have to do with this? That's you projecting your shit onto me. If someone is trying to attract me by displaying their disembodied dick, I have every right to point out why that isn't going to work for me — because based on my experience with men, which is pretty substantial, it indicates that they are not likely to be a good lover.

This OP is about my own preferences - something that I clearly stated with phrases like, "At least for me" and "from my point of view", which according to you, I'm not allowed to have or express — way to go for feminism and sisterhood! You get extra points for all the 'splaining you did about my thoughts, feelings, and my knowledge as well.

Next time, try paying attention to what the person is saying based on the words that they use rather than making a bunch of assumptions based on what you have decided that they must have meant even though they didn't actually say that. Everything in your life will go much better if you do.

And if you’d prefer not to be spoken to in a condescending manner, perhaps you should begin by not speaking to someone else in a condescending way first.

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