I don’t know the answer to that question about healing, but bringing this shit out of the shadows and into the light is a part of that process. There used to be a time when folks would say with a straight face, “What happens behind closed doors is not our business.” In other words, if a guy wanted to beat his wife, molest his daughter or grope his colleague, it was not our business as long as it wasn’t happening out in the open for all to see. We’re making progress on that front, and although there is a long way to go, and a lot of pushback in the process, we are still headed in the right direction.

What is most distressing to me about all of this is how divergent the cultural narrative is from the actual truth — which is why I wrote this. Plenty of people still won’t believe it, but again, putting the truth in front of people again and again is a way to begin to change the mythology.

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