I don’t imagine that my personal experiences are universal because I live in the bubble of my own mind. I know they are universal because I read widely on the subject and talk to a large cross-section of other women. And every single one of them and everyone that they know has stories. From the young to the old, from the Trump supporters to the ultra-left wing, all around the country and the world.

And you absolutely have not sat down with your mother (for example) and said, “Mom, I’m hearing a lot about street harassment and the like. Has that kind of thing every happened to you? I’d like to know more about your experiences if it has.” My 86 year old mother had told me a few of her stories along the way but she recently shared some more — like the time when she was 16 and her doctor grabbed her and French kissed her during a medical appointment. When her mother found out, she was horrified but knew that reporting him would get them no-where and so simply counseled her to never be alone with him again.

I’ve had my breasts touched on a crowded subway undercover of it being “so crowded” and I’ve had my crotch grabbed in a crowded bar. An astronomical percentage of women have been groped in public just like that. Someone in your family has had that happen, whether they’ve told you so or not. No doubt some of them have been assaulted in more violent ways and probably at least one has actually been raped. The fact that you don’t know that is not an indicator it hasn’t happened; it’s an indicator of the culture that we’ve lived in.

And if I’m snarky it’s because it adds insult to a lifetime of injury each time someone like you acts like this stuff is all a big overreaction — particularly in light of government statistics on the subject; overwhelming corroboration in the media on an almost daily basis and my very specific examples of how women are routinely deprived of justice in our legal system. If you don’t want to be snarked at, why don’t you behave like a decent human being rather than a condescending chauvenist?

Edit: Excerpted from another recent article I just came across

And then there’s shit like this too……..

If the extreme prevalence of the violence against women makes you uncomfortable, good — it should!

Dispelling cultural myths with research-driven stories. My favorite word is “specious.” Not fragile like a flower; fragile like a bomb! Twitter @ElleBeau

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