I don’t disagree, but the main point of this article was not to blame men, but to speak to female experience — from a societal, cultural perspective. She repeatedly goes out of her way to not point fingers at men, but at culture. “Men, women, and everyone in between has a fundamental right to sexual pleasure.” So for you to hone in on the one place where she speaks to men is over-sensitive and non-productive.

As you no doubt already know about me, I am not about male bashing. But, speaking the truth, even when it is uncomfortable is not necessarily male-bashing. This over-sensitivity just feeds stereotypes about fragile male egos. Stop making it about you when it’s not about you at all, but about the experiences of women. If you want to talk about you and your experiences — great but stop overlaying that over women’s experiences. This kind of marginalization is tired and outdated. It’s not a contest — stop making it into one.

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