I do have a concept of what masculinity is because one doesn’t have to be a man to understand that. I concede that I have not had to contend with all the pressures of being a man in this society in the same way as someone who is living it, but the abstract ideas of masculinity and feminity are imminently knowable.

I get it, you like your boxes because they feel safe and are hellbent on staying in them and trying to force others to do the same. I specifically said that I was writing what I did to address the sexist tropes made by the men who make them. If you don’t fit into that category, then it doesn’t apply to you and you shouldn’t worry about it. You did, however, make one of those assertions to me, and I responded to it calmly and with facts. I don’t need data to comment upon my personal experiences.

The leading researcher in the world on the topic of vulnerability says:

Vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity and change.

Through my research, I found that vulnerability is the glue that holds relationships together. It’s the magic sauce.

Vulnerability is not weakness. And that myth is profoundly dangerous.

You don’t have to agree with her, but if you value science and data as you claim, rather than mere emotional response, you might want to rethink that.

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